Price of Success
The price of success is hard for some to pay or even think about paying because unlike most currency, you have no idea how much you owe, and if what you are willing to pay is going to be enough. This is why many never start.
The lack of knowing if you are going to get a return on your investment, be it time, effort, or actual money is why the vast majority of people never chase their dreams. People have a hard time making deposits without being able to make immediate withdrawals. They see the work going in, but they are unable to see their progress or the result they want and therefore the price of success begins to add up. Are all these hours going to pay off? Will the money invested ever come back? Will this sweat equity ever produce real equity?
All great questions, none of which there is an answer to unless you look at things a little different than most. After spending the majority of my life dreaming and chasing the Big Leagues, only to come up short, I learned many valuable lessons that allowed me to look back and see the value I was getting from hard work. Remember, I made massive time sacrifices, sweat, pain, friends, and even money to make this dream happen, and it never did. Did I fail? Yes. I did not reach the Big Leagues, but I soon learned that it was only “a failure” and not actual end all, be all failure. I paid the price of success and in the end I was simply not good enough according to the powers that be. This was out of my control. What was in my control was how I bounced back. Was I going to quit trying and leave all the deposits I made into my dream in the bank or was I going to keep pushing and find a new plan to make my dreams come true?
Throughout my career I learned about setting huge goals, discipline, dedication, competing, consistency, being persistent and most of all being patient. All of these lessons proved more lucrative than any college course I ever took. I paid for these lessons in time and sweat for the most part and they returned the greatest value as soon as I failed. The last thing I learned was how important failure is and what it can teach us. I did not really know I learned the above lessons until the day my career ended and I was looking for my next move. Once baseball was over I sat around for approximately one day and then realized success was not going to find me. I quickly began applying the lessons I learned from the years I spent chasing my dream.
I opened up a successful personal training company in Suburban Detroit that I eventually left to combine my passion for fitness and baseball. I then opened up an Indoor Baseball Facility in Traverse City, MI and began working with athletes on skills and fitness. I stayed in this business but something was missing and this was when life started to get a little tougher and then a lot better. I eventually left the indoor facility business to pursue what I thought was my dream; college coaching. It was not. I actually hated the job. I loved the kids, but the job as a whole was quite possibly the worst job I have ever had. The hours were awful, travel was terrible, and the pay was, well, enough to be considered living beneath the poverty line. As you can see I was missing a large component in my life; consistency. I was able to achieve the goals I set through dedication and discipline, I was even persistent and patient and very competitive, but I was not able to be consistent because I was not doing what I thought gave me purpose.
My lack of consistency had me bouncing around, but it was not that I was not consistent, it was the fact that I was unable to be consistent because I had not found my true calling. Then it hit me. I was not able to be consistent because I had not truly defined what success was for me and therefore I would not be able to fully make any withdrawals on my payments toward success until I did. Once I sat down and realized that I wanted to help people and have the freedom to make my own schedule my life took a drastic change. Finally, I was able to point out exactly what I wanted for the first time since my career ended. At this point, I walked away from coaching and started my own speaking and performance coaching business and have not looked back. I started speaking in 2011 but did not realize it could be my career until I realized exactly what I wanted out of life and how I defined success. Now, on a daily basis I am paying the price of success without knowing what the returns will be, and it is a great feeling. I keep making deposits of hours, sleepless nights, phone calls, rejection, and more, but I could not feel better. Yes, just like in baseball I get little victories that let me know what I am doing is working and yes that fuels me to do more, but I spent two years getting zero victories and still kept paying the price of success. I now focus on giving and giving a ton. I give to my success account, I give to people, and I give to myself in the form of personal development and positive thoughts. I have no idea how this journey will end, but I do know that I am willing to pay whatever price (as long as it is ethical) that it takes.
Stop worrying about how far you have to go, or if it will pay off, and start concentrating on paying the price of success, daily.